The Slow Poison
To love or be loved ?
In my JC yrs, I had reflected on this question, and over last weekend it popped in my mind again.
And my words are still the same.
“ Setting aside the obvious, i.e striking a balance of both, my personal view is that in loving somebody, one would need to bring the goodness in oneself out hence making you a better person., by being considerate of the targeted one. Eventually your love will snowballed into a greater compassion which will embrace everyone and everything.
Whilst as a recipient of love, love will be taken for granted in the long run. The consistent giver will be abused and neglected as the recipient knows that he will be forgiven and he does not need to put in much effort to enjoy the goods.
There is rarely a good balance being struck by both parties. The giver, in giving his all, hopes that the recipient will reciprocate in kind. Human, being human, will always take the easy way out by holding out their love till the last moment by which all may be too late.
However if its only a one-sided, a full timer giver's steam would dissipate in the long run. The other problem is that such people are usually the most resilient and wouldn't know when to give up. "
In this modern society where the culture of love is deeply ingrained, everyone wants to find their true love and go off into the sunset hand in hand but however this isn't happening because most people take the easy way by waiting for love to find them or hit them, implying that everyone wants to be more of a recipient than a giver. And even worst, most of us expect instant gratification but thats another theme for some other time.
The way to true love or even maintaining one is actually quite simple.
Firstly, Keep it simple. Second, be honest to yourself. Thirdly, be considerate.
Happy V-day.
In my JC yrs, I had reflected on this question, and over last weekend it popped in my mind again.
And my words are still the same.
“ Setting aside the obvious, i.e striking a balance of both, my personal view is that in loving somebody, one would need to bring the goodness in oneself out hence making you a better person., by being considerate of the targeted one. Eventually your love will snowballed into a greater compassion which will embrace everyone and everything.
Whilst as a recipient of love, love will be taken for granted in the long run. The consistent giver will be abused and neglected as the recipient knows that he will be forgiven and he does not need to put in much effort to enjoy the goods.
There is rarely a good balance being struck by both parties. The giver, in giving his all, hopes that the recipient will reciprocate in kind. Human, being human, will always take the easy way out by holding out their love till the last moment by which all may be too late.
However if its only a one-sided, a full timer giver's steam would dissipate in the long run. The other problem is that such people are usually the most resilient and wouldn't know when to give up. "
In this modern society where the culture of love is deeply ingrained, everyone wants to find their true love and go off into the sunset hand in hand but however this isn't happening because most people take the easy way by waiting for love to find them or hit them, implying that everyone wants to be more of a recipient than a giver. And even worst, most of us expect instant gratification but thats another theme for some other time.
The way to true love or even maintaining one is actually quite simple.
Firstly, Keep it simple. Second, be honest to yourself. Thirdly, be considerate.
Happy V-day.
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